Healthy Relationships V Abusive Relationships

Characteristics of Safe and Healthy Relationships

  • Real Friendship
  • Partnerships
  • Joint decision-making
  • Shared responsibilities
  • Financial equality
  • Freedom to decide issues about work, school and money
  • Physical Safety
  • Respect partners physical space
  • Express self non violently
  • Emotional Honesty
  • Feel safe to admit and share fears and insecurities
  • Sexual Respect
  • Accept that ‘no’ means ‘no’
  • Supportive, Trusting
  • Listen and understand
  • Value partner’s opinion
  • Respectful
  • Respect the right to different feelings, friends and activities
  • Support partner’s goals

Characteristic of Abusive Relationships

  • Domination/Control
  • Abuser decides
  • One person in charge
  • Economic Control
  • Deny job freedom
  • Withhold money
  • Physical Abuse
  • Hit, choke, kick, punch, pull hair, bite, restrain, use weapons
  • Emotional Manipulation
  • Use jealousy, passion, stress and frustration’s to justify actions
  • Sexual Abuse
  • Force partner to do things against their will
  • Controlling
  • Name calling, mind games
  • Isolate partner from friends, loved ones
  • Intimidating
  • Charming in public, Menacing in private
  • Destroying property or pets
  • Making light of abuse “You’re too sensitive”
  • Abusers don’t abuse everyday, but its always coming