Relationship Warning Signs

It is important to identify the level of risk you may be exposed to in a relationship with the emphasis on identification before further abuse occurs. The following is a series of questions you should ask yourself about your own relationship.

  • Are you afraid of your partner?
  • Does your partner emotionally abuse you by insulting you, making belittling comments, ignoring you, sulking or getting angry when you initiate an action or an idea?
  • Does your partner tell you who you may be friends with, how you should dress, or does he try to control other elements of your life or relationship?
  • Does your partner get jealous when there is no reason?
  • Is your partner physically violent to you or others?
  • Does your partner have extreme mood swings from being kind one minute to cruel the next?
  • Does your partner get angry and threaten you to the extent that you have changed your life so as not to “provoke” him?
  • Does your partner make all the financial decisions without consulting you?
  • Is it impossible for you to freely express your values and opinions?
  • Does your partner assume the right to control how you live and behave?
  • Do you have to justify your actions, activities, and time with your friends?
  • Have you given up important activities or people in your life in order to keep him happy?
  • Has your partner ever repeatedly commanded you to “tell the truth” even when you were not lying?
  • Does your partner devalue your opinions, your feelings, and your accomplishments?
  • Does your partner shout, threaten or withdraw into an angry silence when you displease him?
  • Do you “walk on egg shells” rehearsing what you may say so as not to set him off?
  • Does your partner bewilder you by switching from charm to rage without warning?
  • Do you often feel confused, off balance or inadequate with him?
  • Is your partner extremely jealous and possessive?
  • Does your partner blame you for everything that happens in the relationship?
  • Has your partner ever kept you somewhere against your will?
  • Does your partner say he will die if you leave him or he cannot live without you?
  • Does your partner ever threaten to kill you?
  • Does your partner ever threaten to kill himself/herself?
  • Has your partner ever forced you to have sex when you did not want to?
  • Do you feel you want to end the relationship sometimes but feel afraid of what this person might do?

If your answer is yes to some of these questions you may be in an abusive relationship.